Have You Been Deadheading to Allow for Change?

I got to the point where I was VERY frustrated! I’ve long been committed to “walking my talk” of my conscious self-awareness, and I THOUGHT I’d recognized and remedied these “bumps.”

Yet, every time I THOUGHT I’d shifted it, things would be OK for awhile, and then BAM! The same issues would come up again and again… sometimes even more intensely!

I got to a point where I wanted to throw in the towel on ALL OF IT and walk away.

I kept on asking, “What am I missing?”

At one point, I remember thinking about all of this while deadheading the flowers in my garden. I put the question out there… and the plants were right there with the answer the whole time.

Deadheading flowers is removing spent blooms from a flowering plant. Cutting dead flower heads can enhance and extend growing and flowering; it often results in longer living, healthier plants and continual blooms.

When dead blooms are left on the plants, they sap the nutrition and strength from the core of the plants and rob them of the energy to produce new and colorful blooms. Getting rid of what’s dead – and what doesn’t serve the plant anymore – redirects plants energy to continual growth and blossoming.

Often, when we push to “move forward,” the ego gets sneaky. It says, “OK, let’s move forward… but I HAVE TO hold on to this in this way!” Old patterns, old relationships, and old practices might not serve us anymore, but the ego gets attached to them, and is afraid of the unknown. These patterns, relationships, and practices might not be ideal, but they’re “the evil we know”… so the ego insists on holding on to something in a way that doesn’t serve us anymore. However, what happens underneath the surface is that holding on to something that doesn’t align with who we are NOW and who we have the potential to be saps our energy, and prevents us from stepping forward and growing. But we insist that it’s ok… because it’s KNOWN.

However, doing this eventually causes ALL KINDS of other “side effects” and symptoms – including sickness, injury, and irritating circumstances that trigger us.

The longer we hold on to the familiar, the more frequently and more intensely the bumps will happen… until we finally let go.

I had a huge comeuppance in taking stock of what blooms were dying or dead in my garden. I had to be willing to let it all go as it had been, to let it come back together and flourish in a way that aligns with who I am today, and who I desire to become. What a difference, once I realized and moved through all of that! Yes, it was uncomfortable… and yet, far less so than had I insisted on continuing to hold on in the ways that I’d barely been conscious of doing. Now, I’m SO much happier and FREER to be who I am, TODAY.

If you’re stuck in your life and feel like you’ve been hitting that wall again and again and AGAIN, and you’re ready, willing, and able to move forward differently, once and for all, let’s talk! Been there, done that… and helped many others get past it, too!

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